Today marks my 29th birthday, and as I move closer to a "big" birthday next year, I can't help but reflect on my twenties, the past year, and all that I hope for, for the year ahead. So here are six of the many things I have learned so far and I wish for myself in 2018!
Lessons I've Learned So Far
Things Have a Way of Working Out
It might sound cheesy, the whole idea of "it gets better," but it's true! When I think about all the things I struggled with or worried about ten years ago, it's crazy how many of them didn't matter. When you're going through something, it seems SO BIG at the moment, but I wish I could have breathed and just trusted that things do work themselves out one way or another!
It's Okay to Let Go
As I am getting older, I'm finding it easier to let go of things that don't bring me joy, no longer serve me or drain me of my energy. I've also seen that as I have become more assertive that many relationships in my life have changed from my early twenties to now. With these changes came a great deal of mourning and grief. However, for my self-care and mental health, I have found so much emotional freedom in walking away from that which no longer serves me.
Always Trust Your Gut
This lesson ties in with the last one. Though I've learned hard and vital lessons from ignoring my intuition, I feel like I could have saved myself so much emotional pain if I had just trusted myself. There were so many situations that I got into because I wanted to, or it fit with an old story of how I saw myself, or it felt like it was what I was "supposed" to do. The times where I have trusted my gut, even though it may have seemed like a crazy move usually worked out well. You know yourself better than anyone else, and that little voice inside you won't steer you wrong.
What I Hope for the Next Year
This past year with so many significant changes (getting married, changing my career path, getting my first adult job) I feel like my patience has been running thin. I am more irritable, snapping or losing my patience. I hope that I can learn how to take a breath and not just react or lose it.
This past year more than any other, I have felt my brain is like a browser that has a thousand tabs open. It's been hard to pay attention and focused on one thing. Mindfulness is one of the tools that I am so thankful I have learned to cultivate, and I hope in the next year to practice it even more.
The Understanding that It's all Part of The Journey
I feel like I always put so much pressure on myself to have things "figured out" whether it be my relationships, my career or just where I feel like I should be in my life at this point. It's always so reassuring talking to people older than me, who drive the point that there is never a point where you feel like a "real adult." We're all just living our lives doing the best we can. So even though there are projects and goals that I want to achieve in the next year, I am also giving myself permission to enjoy every step of my life journey. All the learning and growing that comes with trying new things and taking risks, without the expectation that 2018 is the year that I will have it all figured out.